I can’t say anything because when I’ve said anything before I’ve been told that I am: “self-centered and make everything about myself”

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who feels slighted when their mother says she loves her grandchildren more than her own children.

And my mom will just say, “Why is everyone on my butt tonight?” I don’t want to cause any problems, but my brother and I are tired of this backhanded compliment, and I honestly don’t know how to deal with it.

It will likely be more effective for your brother to tell your mom “I don’t like when you talk about my child that way” than it is for you to protest. But, again, this seems